"I will make him a helper fit for him."
The Lord created Eve for a special purpose: To emulate Him in this world.
God is our helper and he created women specifically to express that one aspect of His splendid nature (Ps 54:4; 46:1, 121:1, etc.). His divine design for women is that they may be their husbands' help mate for life.
But how does a woman fulfill this wonderful role? The following are just a few areas where your help as a wife is needed.
Eve filled a distinct void in Adam's life. He needed a friend.
Scripture tells us that it was “not good that man should be alone.” Adam was created with a deficiency. Adam experienced this deficiency as he went around naming the animals. He found that not one could keep him from being lonely or give him the real companionship that he desired.
As a wife you help your husband by being a meaningful source of entertainment, conversation, and friendship. By your humor, encouragement, listening ear, and faithful presence, you help your man to get the most out of this life.
A man is called to lead, but he will also fail to lead. When he abdicates his role his wife can be a tremendous help.
This doesn’t mean taking over the leadership. His wife should not say, “Well, I must do it then. If he won’t, I will.” She may be forced into this position if a man does not step forward, but this isn't to be her first line of action. A woman should find ways to encourage her husband and help him be the leader he should.
Complimenting him when he does lead (i.e. disciplines the kids) can be one way of engaging him more in his role. Asking, "What do you think we should do in this situation?" can prompt him to lead in decision making. Offering good advice or a gentle reminder (not a nag) can be a helpful thing too.
He needs your help in leading and being the man he should be.
3. Sexual fulfilment
You know that whole "burn with desire" thing mentioned in 1 Corinthians? This has particular application for men, and the importance of physical intimacy for a man cannot be overlooked. (As a matter of fact, I wanted to put this as #1 on the list, but I thought it may come across as weird. So I backed it down here to #3.)
The truth is, God gave men a robust sexual drive. And women would do well to remember that a man's sexual temperament is quite a bit different from hers. Men have an incredible need in this area and you may be a good help to your man by fulfilling his desires in this area.
That means being the initiator from time to time and considering how frequently you come together. You may want to flirt with your husband and let him know you desire him. You may want to even set aside particular nights for intimacy. A routine can help ensure he is not going unfulfilled.
Adam's task was to take dominion and it's obvious that Eve's role was to assist in fulfilling that calling.
Through most of history the wife would work alongside her man doing the chores on the farm. Her help was very much a tag team affair. But even despite the Industrial Revolution, a woman can still be a great help to a man's productivity.
Paul calls women to be "keepers/workers at home." The word is literally a "house guardian." By tending to the daily household affairs and managing the children, a woman enables a man to thrive in his vocation. Sure he will have responsibilities around the house, but a good home guardian will help her husband be more productive in his work. He won’t be unnecessarily distracted or drained, but will have the energy and focus he needs to accomplish his day to day labors.
To be continued...
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